Co-parenting Done Right

How good communication and putting the children first helped these celebrity couples in their co-parenting relationships.

Posted on March 29, 2019

Updated on February 8, 2022

Research shows that having two loving parents who are actively involved in the lives of their kids is best, no matter their marital status. Tinseltown may be riddled with the remains of relationships that fizzled out under the harsh light of fame and fortune, but it has also led to some great co-parenting relationships. While we are only on the outside looking in, the public statements of these famous couples reflect parents who are doing their best to show respect to one another and put the best interests of their children first.

Josh Lucas’s Nest

Actor Josh Lucas has starred in blockbuster movies such as Sweet Home Alabama, Hulk, and A Beautiful Mind. His first marriage to Jessica Ciencin Henriquez, however, was not such a hit. The couple split in 2014 but did not want to upset their son, Noah.

The couple committed to co-parenting and tried several different approaches, including living separately, living together, and bird nesting (where they took turns living in the marital family home, so Noah never had to leave). Henriquez spoke candidly to People magazine about the realities of the co-parenting process.

“What I know now and desperately needed to hear then is this: Let go of the family you thought you’d be and accept the family that you are…It won’t be easy, and there will be days when it feels nearly impossible. You will feel guilt, but you are not guilty.”

Conscious Uncoupling

This phrase may have been mercilessly mocked in public, but in the private lives of actress Gwenyth Paltrow and Coldplay singer Chris Martin, it made all the difference in their co-parenting relationship.

In several interviews, Paltrow said the idea was to skip past all the fighting and anger and get to the point where she and Martin could be friends and help each other raise their kids. Paltrow and Martin share two children, and five years after their 2014 divorce, they consider one another friends. Over the years they have celebrated holidays and family events together.

In an interview with E! News, Paltrow had this to say about the process of co-parenting: “You really have to focus on forgiveness and, you know, spite that comes up – you have to let it go…It’s definitely not effortless. But now, at this point five years later, it’s pretty good. But the first couple of years, it was very effortful. And for the sake of the children, we were really committed to maintaining the family structure, even though it looks a bit different.

Blending Families

Golden Globe Award-winning actress and Grammy-nominated international superstar Jennifer Lopez does have something in common with many parents today – she is divorced. When J. Lo divorced her husband, Marc Anthony, they split knowing they would have to figure out a way to care for their one-year-old twins together.

“We share something very special in the kids, and we know that,” Redbook quoted Lopez saying. “We’re there for them, and that’s the main thing.”

Even with a new beau in the mix, Lopez and Anthony continued to make it work. They celebrated the blending of families with fiancé, Alexander Rodriguez’s (aka A-Rod) children and their children (see this sweet family photo at a dance recital where both Lopez and A-Rods kids were performing).

Suck it up and do it

Ne-Yo and ex-fiancée, Monyetta Shaw, co-parent two children. Shaw wrote a book about the experience, Keep It Classy: Co-parenting Strategies for Unstoppable Moms and Devoted Dads.

As Shaw discussed in an interview with Hollywood Life, though the two parents have their moments when they may argue or disagree, they also strive to make things work for the sake of the children.

“Even in the thick of things in the breakup, I was not going to keep them (children Madilyn and Mason) away or do it separate because I was mad,” she admitted. “I sucked it up and just did it. I can’t imagine taking that away from them because of whatever I’m going through that day or his feelings. It’s not acceptable."

Accepting New Norms

A common theme among all these celebrity couples has been accepting new normals for what their families look like. It’s not the traditional, nuclear family that you may have grown up reading about in fairy tales, but it’s still a family steeped in love. Numerous studies have linked shared parenting, or co-parenting, to better outcomes for children of all ages, and these celebrity couples have taken that message to head and heart.

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